Archive for December, 2010

On New Year’s Eve 2010

Currently, I am:

Listening: to my children and their cousins play

Eating: nothing, but just finished an hors d’oevres dinner with chicken wings, jalepeno poppers, French fries, chips & cheese, and reindeer food (Rice Chex with white chocolate and crushed candy canes – delicious!)

Drinking: water and caffeine free Diet Coke

Wearing: maternity pants (great for the holidays!) and comfortable shoes

Feeling: Great! Tired! Pregnant!

Weather: Its been a snowy winter, but tonight its raining. Yesterday, it was 40 degrees and rainy.

Wanting: to be able to see my toes again; not to hear of anymore loved ones in the hospital

Needing: Nothing, really.

Thinking: that my family should eat healthier and get more exercise!

Enjoying: knowing that there are 4 weeks or less left of work before I get to spend 7 months with my little cherubs – remind me later that I was looking forward to this!

Wondering: how our lives will change with the addition of a new little one to our family

Noticing: that my baby boy is getting so much more grown up and, as much as I like to cuddle with my kids, my lap is slowly disappearing to this giant belly

Reflecting: on how we’ve grown over this past year. Taylor navigating himself through 5th grade without so much constant intervention from his nagging parents; Natalie becoming increasingly independent, yet clinging to her place in my heart as “my little girl.”; James turning from a 6-month old baby in January to a feisty toddler by December – his growth is almost immeasurable; Riley continuing to grow in his roles as Dad at home and supervisor at work; Me turning 30 last fall and deciding that that means it is time to stop letting people walk all over me and speaking my mind when it needs to be spoken (also remembering to keep my mouth shut when it needs to stay shut).

Wishing you and your family a happy and safe 2011!

I stole the idea for this post from my friend Ivy in Chicago. If you want to read what she is doing at the end of the year, visit her blog at http://www.ivypink.typepad.com.  Thanks, Ivy Pink!


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I’m sitting in the hospital today at my father-in-law’s bedside. He suffered from a burst blood vessel in his brain last week. He was lifting heavy boxes and got an excruciating headache that had him heading to the hospital. Recent CT scans have indicated the blood is receding as expected. But he’s still in a lot of pain.

It’s amazing how fragile life can be. One minute you’re fine and the next you’re in a hospital bed, waiting for blood to drain from your brain. Things like this make it really hard not to freak out and try to live in a plastic bubble, keeping your kids safe from harm.

The truth is, though, there’s no way to account for every possibility. To forsee and change your course, steering clear of disaster. It’s what makes life uncertain.

I calm my own fears this way sometimes. For instance, I’m scared to be home alone in the dark. I start imagining intruders coming in to take my children or hurt my family, without Riley there to protect us. For every bad scenario I imagine, I calm my fears by realizing that, since I don’t have ESP, the likelihood of having a robber hide in the exact location I had imagined and popping out to strangle me us pretty slim. By then I’ve usually calmed myself down.

How do you protect your family then? I say, instead of sheltering, teach. Teach your kids how to cross the street without you, how to blow on hot food, how to take bites instead of cutting their sandwich into tiny cubes. Teach them stranger safety, to run and scream if they feel threatened. Teach them how to live life and love life without being afraid. Teach them to respect life and it’s fragility and to live each day to mean something. Teach them that by example.

Please pray for Joe and a quick recovery! And love your life!

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On True Love

This isn’t what you think it is. It’s not valentines day or my anniversary. This is not even a tribute to my true love (Diet Coke – just kidding… sort of).

I didn’t date a lot growing up. I had about two boyfriends in high school, although, thankfully not at the same time. I also dated two different guys throughout college. Then i met Riley. We dated for a while and i moved closer to him to attend grad school. We were engaged a few years later, got married and have been married for over four years. I do consider Riley my “one” – my true love.

But, as promised, this is not about Riley. Its about a movie that we recently watched together called “Timer.” The movie’s premise is based on a piece of technology called the timer. Once installed on your wrist, the timer counts down the amount of time until you meet your true love. If your timer is blank, it means that your true love has not yet been hooked up with a timer. A sensor in the timer measures certain biofeedback, which is why its necessary for both lovebirds to have timers in order to have a countdown. Once your timer zeroes out, the countdown reaches zero, it means you will meet your true love in the next 24 hours. When you do, your timer and his (or hers) will chime with the same tone. And, voila, your true love is literally standing before your eyes. I’m not giving too much away about the movie because you learn most of this within the first five minutes. The story continues to follow one woman with a blank timer, her step-sister with a timer that is set to “zero out” on true love in, like, 10 years. You meet some other characters with surprising timer amounts intertwined in the story.

Benefits to the timer, according to the movie, include not wasting your time dating people who would not ultimately be comatible with you anyway. Also, accomplishing goals before you settle down with a family. Traveling the world before getting serious with a career and family and simply knowing that when your timer zeroes out and you hear the audible signal, you are standing in front of your true love. The timer boasts to have all but eliminated divorce and love-sick heartache, as no one with a timer marries the wrong person.

What are the drawbacks to having a timer like this? Well, I know that i learned a lot from my “failed relationships” about love and compromise and about myself. I feel like I was able to practice some aspects of more serious relationships with those first boyfriends, like what it means to compromise and how to balance sharing interests with keeping my own personality sacred. Without that practice, I may not have known as much about myself or living closely with someone else before I actually met my true love.

The first part of a new relationship when you have butterflies in your stomach, wondering what will be, how things will go can be exhilarating. With a timer, you would check your wrist against your new interest’s wrist and know instantly if this was your true love. No walking home glowing after a fun first date, wondering what will be. Would it be worth it to go out? To try to meet new people if your timer had months or years left? What friendships or interesting people would you lose out on along the way?

If you could know or have known the exact moment when you would meet your “one” would you want to know? If you could have a guarantee of compatibility, would that be worth not learning through your first relationships? If you could get a timer, would you?

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On Paybacks

I was going to post today about how wellness care through my chiropractor has saved me from getting sick this school year. But I don’t feel like it. Because I’m sick. And have laryngitis. And can’t talk. And I’m a Speech Therapist.

I know this is my body’s way of telling me to slow down. But seriously. I don’t have time for slowing down right now.

So, look forward to my post on healthy living that will follow when I feel better and can resume my illness invincibility with regular chiropractic care, lots of water, rest, supplements and a decent diet.

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